the must-read essay of the week

Jason Kuznicki's essay "Love and Lust, Selves and Bodies" is the week's best, a perfect example of blogging done right. A portion:

The man on the phone wants to speak to my wife — Do I just tell him that I’m single, and avoid the possibly hostile questions?

The form has blanks for your name and that of your “spouse.” What do I write? It can’t be the same in all contexts. Can it?

A casual acquaintance makes an unkind remark about gays. Perhaps for the sake of friendship, and to avoid his embarrassment, I should simply let it pass.

These are the decisions I have to make all the time, and I would suggest that the path of least resistance leads only back to the closet.